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Condoms and Oral Sex

Many guys feel that condoms dull the sensation and prefer skin-to-skin contact.

Others might think using a condom interrupts the flow or makes things feel less spontaneous. Trust me, we understand.

Despite these reasons, keeping safe should be your priority, especially in a commercial sex setting and here's why:

You Can Catch Herpes Through Unprotected Oral Sex

Herpes does not need to be visible to be transmitted. The herpes simplex virus (HSV) can be spread even when there are no visible sores or symptoms. This is due to a phenomenon known as "asymptomatic shedding," where the virus is present on the skin or mucous membranes without causing any noticeable signs.

The World Health Organization says around 67% of people under 50 have HSV-1, and about 13% have HSV-2. HSV-1 usually causes oral herpes, but it can also lead to genital herpes. Herpes is incurable, and once you have herpes, it’s with you for life.

The symptoms of herpes such as painful sores on your penis, herpetic nerve pain, painful urination and discharge from the urethra are lifelong.

Legal Implications in New Zealand

In New Zealand, it's not just about health risks—it's also about the law. The New Zealand Prostitution Reform Act (NZPRA) mandates that sex workers and their clients must use protection, including condoms, during all forms of sexual activity. Failing to use a condom is against the law, and both the sex worker and the client can face legal consequences.

You could pass an STD to Your Wife or Significant Other

Let’s get real for a moment. If you have a partner, and particularly if you’re seeing sex workers in secret, the stakes are even higher.

Imagine contracting herpes and passing it on to your partner. How would you explain that to them? The fallout could be devastating:

  • Health Risks: Passing herpes on to your partner puts their health at risk and can have serious, long-term consequences.

  • Social Consequences: If the situation becomes known to others, it can affect your social standing and relationships with friends and family.

  • Financial Consequences: A divorce due to infidelity/passing an STD to your partner can be financially devastating. Legal fees, alimony, child support, and the division of assets can leave you in a tough financial situation. It’s not worth the risk.

Think About your Future

Imagine having to explain to your current or future partner why you have herpes (an incurable STD). It’s not just about the pleasure in the moment—it’s about the long-term effects and how they’ll impact your relationships and future sex-life. Condoms might seem like a buzz-kill, but they can save you from a lifetime of regret.

So, next time you’re in the moment and thinking about asking for oral without a condom, please think again. Consider the risks, the importance of protecting yourself, and the long-term consequences of a few minutes of pleasure. Be smart—always use a condom. Your future self will thank you.


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